Enjoying Our Bodies & Sex!

The Age of Female Sexual Self –Actualisation – Part 1

Despite how many bright and articulate women I meet every day, that are in charge and “happening” and forging ahead with their dreams and goals, I am always surprised that when the discussion turns to sex, the silence is deafening! I can almost hear the crickets chirping and the duppies groaning. The reluctance to discuss sexual issues by women at all or with others that are not our “girls”, means that often our partners don’t know what interests us or if we are enjoying our experiences. Often when women come with concerns about “down there”, I often ask did they look at it. Invariably the answer is no. But even more telling are the negative facial expressions as if I should not even have broached the question in the first place. Why are we unwilling to look at an essential part of our own bodies? And even in times when you have significant health concerns, nothing will overcome that obstacle.

The female external genitalia (the externally visible sex organs) include the vulva and the clitoris. The vulva is made up of a variable amount of fat that is covered by skin and hair. It serves primarily a protective function for the other important structures folded within its 2 larger outer lips (the labia majora). These important structures (from top to bottom when lying on your back) include the clitoris, the opening for urine passage (the urethra), and the opening of the vagina. Unlike the other structures with a clear biological role, the clitoris has only one function. Sexual pleasure! Our divine being in his/her wisdom, wanted women to have sexual enjoyment with their partners!

I was given this challenge when I was a teenager by my doctor and it is the only homework I am going to ask you to do today. Take a hand mirror and go somewhere private (where no one can interrupt you) and take a close look at the different parts of your sex organs. This is important, for how are you going to assist your partner to understand where he is to touch if you are too afraid to even look or touch parts of your own body. Interestingly our men are programmed by our good Lord to love the look and feel of our genitalia, so if you can give him a “show and tell” session, I am sure he will be most appreciative! Have fun!

And as usual, let me know how you are doing.